How do I change? Why is change so hard?
Why is it hard for me to say “no”?
Why do I repeat certain patterns?

Do you often find yourself asking, “How do I change?” or “Why is it hard for me to say ‘no’?” Perhaps you notice recurring patterns in your behavior and wonder, “Why do I repeat certain actions?” These questions are common in therapy sessions and highlight a profound disconnection between our deepest desires and actions. They reveal a significant level of self-awareness, pointing to the hidden aspects of our core selves.

Our bodies and minds are intricately connected. Emotional suppression can manifest physically, causing pain or leading to emotional turmoil, such as depression or anxiety. In response to these destabilizing forces, we crave balance and security. When these are present, we have the energy to explore and embrace change.

To create this balance, some may turn to alcohol, drugs, sex, shopping, work, or even conflict as coping mechanisms for stress or pain. However, these methods often decrease our ability to manage effectively. In our attempts to cope with pain, we’ve already initiated a form of change. Yet, the strategies we choose to regain balance—our attempts to recapture joy, hope, and excitement—can be counterproductive. These cycles of behavior can lead to isolation from responsibilities, opportunities, and commitments, deepening our sense of disconnect and despair.

The questions we ask ourselves signal the beginning of an awakening. They seek clarity and growth, setting the stage for significant life improvements. For many, this marks the first step towards healing and transformation.

At Core Counselling, we understand these challenges and are here to support you through your journey. With strategic guidance, attentive listening, and caring expertise, we help you navigate these questions, fostering growth and positive change. Book an appointment with us today to take the first step towards a better life.